Comments on: Radio Silence: How To Respond When Others Don’t

By: Ang Carr

Ang Carr — Mon, 18 Nov 2024 23:47:51 +0000

Every time I assume, I'm wrong or think he's no longer there for me , I'm wrong
normally "busy" means "busy" (i.e., travel, fam, holidays, work) & has more to do
w/ them than w/ me ..So, carry on & enjoy ur free time

By: Dan

Dan — Mon, 26 Apr 2021 17:39:11 +0000

In reply to Brent. I'm sorry to hear this Brent. There's definitely a place to wait for people to reach out but there's also a time and a place to initiate and work toward restoration. I hope you'll take some steps toward your family.

By: Brent

Brent — Sun, 25 Apr 2021 05:34:40 +0000

What about Radio Silence from your circle of friends and family? For many years I’ve felt isolated because I’m single now & my family and friends don’t converse with me much (if at all) I get that people have lives but it made me realize that my ex wife was the one everyone loved…. not me. (Even if she was an Adulterous).

By: Anna

Anna — Sun, 07 Jul 2019 04:41:08 +0000

I have a good friend that I recently reconnected with. He used to respond immediately to my messages and even said he waited for them, but now he responds less and less. He still says how much he enjoys them, but I’m wondering if after 4 months he’s tired of communicating everyday? I’ll admit that everyday communication is a lot, so maybe that’s the problem. I don’t have an expectation of talking to him everyday, but I fear that he thinks that.

By: Dan

Dan — Wed, 03 Apr 2019 16:23:11 +0000

In reply to Dani. Thanks so much for the thoughts Dani! I'm so glad it was helpful :-)

By: Dani

Dani — Wed, 03 Apr 2019 16:20:11 +0000

I become paralized by assuming the worst with negative thoughts. Ultimately, I end up ignoring the situation and letting anxiety manifest without any form of closure. In retrospect, the lack of closure accumulates and magnifies the anxiety for a similar situation in regards to “crickets.” But after reading this article, it gave me a different perspective and a better course of action. I’m glad I stumbled upon it.

By: Dan

Dan — Tue, 23 Oct 2018 19:24:03 +0000

In reply to Tom.

I love this Tom!

I like that you have built in response points for paid work. That’s something I’d like to implement more intentionally.

Thanks for taking the time to respond here. I really appreciate it!

By: Tom

Tom — Mon, 22 Oct 2018 20:56:05 +0000

Hey Dan, I just caught the headline of this article on Twitter and immediately resonated with me. I always wrongly assume people are ungrateful jerks when more than a few days go by after I do something I feel deserves recognition. The thing that bothers me the most is when I take the time to answer a question from a student or follower and they don’t reply with a quick thanks. In one sense, it truly is upsetting when people don’t show appreciation for these kind gestures, but in another, I should know better than to expect a pat on the back for every good deed. Where it comes to client feedback after sending work, however, I try to build in the opportunity for feedback at various points. For instance, I show my work in presentation decks first, before sending final files. I make sure not to send final files until I get their feedback of the work as presented in the deck. At least I know the client has accepted the work enough to request files, and thus, the final invoice. After all, if a client pays for the work, I don’t have to worry if they’re thankful! 🙂

By: Dan Cumberland

Dan Cumberland — Thu, 07 Sep 2017 18:00:37 +0000

In reply to Kiersten. What a tough situation Kiersten. I hope good news comes your way!

By: Kiersten

Kiersten — Sun, 03 Sep 2017 17:50:45 +0000

I very recently experienced this in a cross section of my personal and professional lives when I learned that a former colleague who was also a friend had told my then-employer (and her only-recently-former employer) that I was considering leaving for another job. The result was a very unpleasant confrontation with my boss, in which I was made to feel guilty and pressured to resign or take a demotion. I feared for my job security because I was still waiting to hear back from a prospect.

I sent a very respectful, but straightforward, text message to this friend, basically expressing my surprise and hurt, and inviting her to clear things up. Crickets.

I let several days go by, and then reached out again to explain that I interpreted her radio silence to mean that she was confirming my suspicion and wasn’t interested in preserving the friendship. Only then did she respond to say that I was “attacking” her and that she was unwilling to engage with me via text. No response to the actual subject matter. More crickets.

I’ve let a week go by to think it over, and just wrote her a letter explaining how I felt and inviting her to respond in any way she chooses, taking great pains to be straightforward without being aggressive or mean spirited. We’ll see how long the crickets last this time. Maybe she’ll surprise me =)